Monday, September 10, 2012

No One Can Define You..But You...

As you all know, each of us will come across some type of foolishness in life but it's how we handle it that defines who we are and who we will become.
Last week I visited my old neighborhood to visit Mommy and the fam and of course ran into some folks I haven't seen in a while. It turns out after my visit, an older lady who watched me grow up saw me around and when she ran into my mother had the nerve to say I got fat. She even had the nerve to say it like it was cute. Now of course my mom tells me this because she couldn't believe the ignorance of some people but at the same time she knew I wouldn't get all crazy about it as for the most part I'm laid back and usually like, yeah, whatever.

Well, when mom told me this, I will admit that my first thought was, "Now what now..?..Tell her her mother is fat." Yes, I know, not very nice but I am only human and I just couldn't believe someone had the nerve to say that to my mom of all people. After a few seconds of my crazy thoughts I said to myself, I love my figure and this woman and her foolishness doesn't make or break me. Although I could have let this individual and their words hurt me, I had the strength to say this woman doesn't define me and moved on.

Sometimes I wonder if people say foolish things because they mean it, they don't know how to hold an adult conversation so they say the first thing that comes to mind, pure ignorance, or just don't know how to keep some comments to themselves. Whatever the answer may be, yes, words can hurt but once we realize that no one can define us, those words have no power.

We define who we are, us and no one else. If we are happy inside and out, and enjoying life then those insignificant negative beings can go ahead and kick rocks because their presence is just that, a presence.

Do you let others define who you are, or do you know who you are inside and out and happy you are with just that?

Thank you all so very much for reading and remember to leave your thoughts and comments below.
~Positively Jewls


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