Friday, September 23, 2011

Can You Really Change Your Partner?

So last night I randomly saw a preview of Jersey Shore while watching Vampire Diaries and due to the drama looking so intriguing I thought I should give it a look.  I had watched a few of the past episodes of the season and I kept noticing how Jionni (Snooki's BF) had an issue with mostly everything she said, did, etc.  Now we all know Snooki is known to be a party girl with a bubbly personality, you would think Jionni knew this when he got with her, right?  Well he surely doesn't act like it.  He doesn't want a girl that drinks, talks dirty to her man and gets a little crazy in the club with her man but if that's not what he wanted why in the hell did he get with Snooki, that describes her in a nutshell.  She has said it out her own mouth that she is a sweet girl who likes to party and I respect the girl for her honesty.  Well unfortunately in one of the past episodes she made a sexy comment to her man about what she wanted to do to him and he told her to shut up, he doesn't want her talking like that and she is embarassing him.  WTH? Then Snooki points out that she is trying to change but this is her personality and this is who she is. In my opinion shouldn't Jionni just accept her for who she is as he knew who he is getting with when he got with her?

Unfortunately in many cases it seems that there are a lot of people who start a relationship with someone thinking they can change them.  In my personal opinion ladies I believe this just isn't possible.  If someone wants to change any aspects of themselves they have to want to do it for them and it has to come from within them not from their partner badgering them about it.  I see it this way, if you try to force someone to change they will just resent you for it and wonder why you began a relationship with them in the first place.  Everything you want changed about them now was more then likely present at the beginning and at first you thought it was cute and fun but now that you guys are serious it's a totally different ball game for you.  That's all fine and dandy but if you love someone you have to love them for them or not love them at all.  As Brand Nubian would say, "Love Me or Leave Me Alone."

Have you tried to change your partner and if so what was the outcome?

Thank you all so very much for reading and please make sure to leave your thoughts and comments below.

~Positively Jewls

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