Wednesday, January 8, 2014

HAPPY 2014!!! :)))

I hope everyone's new year is off to a great start! 

Stay tuned as there are some behind the scenes changes taking place. In the mean time, catch up on some semi old but good reading.  

See you soon! :)

Positively Jewls

Monday, November 4, 2013

The Unwritten Rules..Season 2 Finale..Will You Bring It Back For Season 3??

Hey All,

I wanted to bring to you the below video as I absolutely love this show and definitely can relate too the majority of the foolishness that ensues.  The below video is for those of you that may have never seen the show before and I am hoping if you do enjoy it you will hop on over to you tube to continue watching and hopefully help to bring it back for Season 3.

Btw, I gain absolutely nothing from this, I am just one of the people spreading the word. 


~Positively Jewls

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Don't We All Have Our Inner "White Voice??"

As you all know our boy Kanye West has taken a residency in the media due too all sorts of antics but most recently his white voice comment has rubbed people the wrong way.  This all started when people noticed his voice had changed particularly during recent interviews with certain folks, (think Leonard from BBT) and at first many thought it was a voice over but nope, it was him.  During a recent radio show he explained this new found voice of his and he called it his "white voice."  He goes on to explain something about the corporate world, people taking you seriously in certain situations, so on and so forth.  I personally laughed at this statement and got where he was coming from but unlike myself many people were up in arms, calling him crazy, a sell out, etc but I became confused thinking to myself "don't we all have that voice?"

Although Kanye's delivery and the use of the term "white voice" was wrong some of what he said actually made sense.  Now, personally I wouldn't call this voice the "white voice" instead I would call it the "Corporate America" voice. Using the term white voice just turns this into a racial thing and damn it we already have enough of that going around. Also, I have a few white friends of my own that don't use this voice but know many people of different racial backgrounds that do. Those who were pissed off by his statement really need to think about the truth behind the statement.

When you watch comedy skits from the 80's up until now, you will always hear about the homey from the hood who speaks one way in the street but does an entire 180 when he is at his 9-5 in the corporate world. If we weren't so sensitive about it then, why be so sensitive about it now?  Could it be that those who were so angry are just mad because the truth was said out loud.  In certain situations you must carry yourself a certain way and use a certain terminology even if it does go against the grain.  Truthfully, at the end of day we all have bills to pay and if that little switch of a voice gets us that paycheck then so be it, at least until you can do otherwise.

So you tell me, do you believe this statement is true or just complete non-sense?

Thank you all so much for reading and remember to leave your thoughts and comments below.

~Positively Jewls

P.S. Don't forget to check out my handmade jewelry under the jewelry tab. :)

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Is Society Really Promoting This Mess??

I was on the train yesterday casually reading my Cosmo mag and I came across this article titled, "The Cheating Diaries," with the explanation reading, "two men and two women reveal why they strayed and how they pulled off their secret hookups without getting caught." Not thinking to much of it, I began reading and very quickly began to become irritated. While reading I thought I would hear more along the lines of, yes I got away with it but I feel guilty, this was the outcome and why it's not worth it.  Not only did I get none of that but instead I was reading about affairs that are taking place until this day and instead of guilt coming through the pages, there was more excitement coming through then anything else from these people because they hadn't gotten caught...yet!

You had the married couple with kids, the wife began cheating as she felt her and her husband had checked out of their marriage so she began sleeping with a man who was also married, this story was just some "Unfaithful," Diane Lane mess, which by the way was a great movie if you haven't seen it. Then there was the married guy who travels allot for business and cheats on his wife with the ex girlfriend and at one point thinks about getting two phones so he can keep his lie straight.  Then there is the fiancee who states her fiance is perfect in every way but the sex isn't up to par so she is sleeping with a woman and the list goes on.  

While reading this article I also thought about the show Betrayal which is based on two married couples with one spouse sleeping with the other.  Now, although the movies and TV shows are just for pure entertainment it seems that people are forgetting how to separate the two.  People tend to forget that this is real life and shit gets real messy, real quick. That may be why the article bothered me at most because with this, along with some reality situations we see on TV and Internet dating sites for married people looking to cheat, it feels like part of society is promoting this mess.  Instead of sharing why affairs are messy and not worth it, we are instead getting tips on how to pull it off and supposedly never get caught. These are not situations to be taken lightly and those involved need to be thinking about more then just themselves and their temporary excitement.

People in today's society seriously need to get back into reality and out of this fantasy world they are living in.  By all means, people make mistakes but to carry on something for so long without any remorse, there is just no excuse for that.

Have people forgotten how much karma really is a bitch and the grass isn't always greener?  The excitement may seem fantastic for now but what happens in the dark always comes to light and in the end one way or another you may just pay for your indiscretions.

Thank you all so very much for reading and remember to leave your thoughts and comments below.

~Positively Jewls

P.S. Don't forget to checkout my awesome handmade jewelry. :)

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

How Will They Know??..

Yesterday, I met up with the bestie for lunch and we had an enlightening conversation regarding friendships, betrayal, forgiveness, etc.  Within that conversation the bestie brought up something that enlightened me and made me think about how friendships and relationships are handled when a not so nice situation has entered the horizon and the proper way that situation should be handled.

We were talking about how she felt that one of her girlfriends betrayed her in the past but after running into that old friend recently she started to think maybe she should have handled things differently.  See, she had about an eight year friendship with this person and learned allot from said friend through the years and through those years they were there for each other through life's ups and the downs. Unfortunately, sometime last year her friend put her nose in where it didn't belong and opened her lips when she shouldn't have and the end result was my bestie stepping away from that friendship.  

Fast forward to this week and my friend began to question if she put herself in that situation with her friend as she thought maybe she should have taken more responsibility and not given so much of her personal business away.  No, her girlfriend didn't have the right to blab all her business but she wouldn't have had much to blab about if she wasn't given so much to go on because as we all know, some people just talk to much.  She also wondered that maybe if she had been a little more upfront about the situation and how it made her feel then maybe the friendship would have never fallen apart and said friend would have learned from her mistake.  

Well it turns out that she has decided to forgive her friend and move on while slowly salvaging the relationship they had as it truly wasn't all bad and she feels that the two of them can now learn from each others mistakes. She now knows to handle things differently with future relationships because if it's worth saving then it's best to speak up because otherwise, how will the other person know what they have done wrong if you don't tell them.

Personally, I have had my fair share of ups and downs with friends as well and have walked away from some without telling them why.  Some of these "friendships" were not worth saving so I really could care less but there were a small few that could have been saved if I handled things differently. The end result is that it's never to late to tell a person why and if the relationship is worth saving, then it's worth saying.

Thank you so much for reading and remember to leave your thoughts and comments below.

P.S. Don't forget to check out my handmade fashion jewelry under the jewelry tab. :)

~Positively Jewls

Friday, October 11, 2013

Don't Judge Unless You Are In It..

Yesterday I was reading my trusty AM paper and in it was an article about Khloe K./Lamar and the title read, "Khloe: Committed to love, life with Lamar?" Whether you keep up with the Kardashian's or not I'm pretty sure you have heard about the unfortunate situation that has taken place in their marriage.  Although the couple has gone through hell with the drug jokes and opinions due to Lamar's drug use and cheating rumors, Khloe has decided or at least it seems she has decided to try and ride this thing out with her hubs. Take a look at the below words from her Twitter page which gave me the inspiration to write this post.

"The deepest love is tough to explain and understand.  Not all scars can be seen and not all love can be explained. The deepest love is also the hardest to express. If I love you it's a deep forever love. Ride to the end, family/friend. It's simply called love. I take it seriously. Don't judge unless you are in it."

I agree with Khloe 110% and those who have a loved and has been through something similar probably feel the same as well.  Now, don't get it confused, I don't condone cheating or hardcore heavy drug use but every situation is different and it takes a strong and compassionate person to ride to the end of it all. They are the only ones who will understand why they are doing so and at the end of the day that is all that matters. When you see someone you truly love falling apart, all you want to do is help.  Yes, your scared, hurt and asking yourself why me but you may just decide to ride to the end and that's okay. 

I always believe you never know what is going on behind someones closed doors and you never know what a person is going through that has led them down to a path of destruction. Only the people in the situation know what the relationship is worth and only they can make the decision of what to do next.

That's what makes this situation with Khloe so interesting, particularly because she is doing what most would do, except she is doing it in the public eye which leaves room for people to judge.  What makes it even more interesting is that those same people who are judging and making fun are the same people who would do the same for the ones they love.

~Positively Jewls

Thursday, October 10, 2013

What If It Was Your Child???..Missing Child!!

Avonte Oquendo has been missing since Friday, Oct. 4th.

As many of you may have heard or read, Avonte pictured above is a 14 year old autistic boy who has been missing since last Friday.  He was last seen leaving his school during recess time and hasn't been seen since.  

I personally don't get to watch the news that often due to my work schedule but I have been keeping up with this story via the Internet and my mom.  The latest I had heard was that the security guard in his school saw him leaving and didn't very much to stop him.  Take a look at the paragraph below as Avonte's grandmother speaks specifically about the incident with the security guard.

“The child’s grandmother spoke to a security guard when she came to the school several hours later,” said the family’s attorney, David Perecman. “And the security guard told her that the child was leaving school, and she said, ‘Where are you going?’ He doesn’t speak. And the child said nothing. And she let him leave.”

This child is not only autistic but he is also mute so you just nonchalantly assume he is just ignoring you and you let him leave? What kind of security guard are you?  Whether you knew he was autistic or not, why would you just let the child leave school grounds without thinking that maybe there is something wrong with the child, if you were unsure, why not get a supervisor, lock or block the doors so he doesn't leave, do something, anything.  Now I can't only put the blame on the security guard as the school should make security aware of students that need to be looked after a little more then others.  What some schools forget to realize is that they are responsible for all of the children in that school from the time they walk through those doors until the end of day when they leave school grounds.

What bothers me the most is that, not all, but some "security guards" are just so nonchalant about their jobs. They really could care less about what goes on as long as they get their check but that shouldn't be the case especially when watching over children. When they take on a job in a school they should have the training and thinking, "What if it was my child?"

I know it may seem like I am bashing this woman but I'm really not, I'm just hoping I opened some minds and hopefully get people to pay closer attention.  People can be so damn self absorbed at times and unfortunately that self absorbency can lead to this type of situation.  Simply put, take your head out your ass for two seconds and maybe, just maybe, situations like this can be avoided.

I hope and pray this little boy is found safely and I hope and pray this woman has learned something from this as she along with the school has put this child at great risk.

For more on this story go here: Search Continues

Also, below please find information on how you can help and spread the word as much as you can.

Anyone with information was asked to contact NYPD Crime Stoppers at 800-577-TIPS, log onto the Crime Stoppers website or text tips to 274637 (CRIMES) and enter TIP577. Oquendo is 5 feet, 3 inches tall and weighs 125 pounds. He was last seen wearing a gray striped shirt, black jeans and black shoes.

~Positively Jewls

Thursday, October 3, 2013

Sh*t People Say to Married People...

I am sure many of you have come across all of the articles, blog post, tweets, etc in regards to the Sh*t people say and the majority of them have been based on what is said to single people.  Well let's put on my shoes for a moment and experience the Sh*t that people say to married people.  Yes, we get our fair share of foolishness as well, take a look at the below to see what I mean.

#1- I don't believe in marriage because men are dogs, it's just a piece of paper, there is no way two people can last forever and he probably will just cheat sooner or later but anyway, congratulations. What??? Here I am all happy in married land and the only thing that can come out of your mouth is pure negativity? Have you realized how bitter you sound?  We all go through things in life and I'm sure you may have been through your fair share based on your comments but instead of being negative and ruining my joy, why not take the time to forgive, heal and figure out why you are so against marriage and men in general. Until then please keep the negativity to yourself. 

#2- I heard you just got married, are you pregnant?- I haven't particularly encountered this question myself but I know of some who have and it's actually quite a rude thing to ask.  Now I'm not going to act like these things don't happen because they do but don't just ask someone this question, maybe, just maybe they are actually in love with the person they are with and want to build a future with them whether there is a baby on board or not.  Really it's none of any one's business so unless they divulge the information to you, keep this question to yourself.

#3- When are you going to hurry up and get pregnant and have some babies?-  Why are you rushing me, no seriously, why? There are some loving family members and friends who mean no harm when they ask this but goodness there is more to getting married then having kids and due to the fact that I just got married yesterday, may I please enjoy my husband for a bit?

#4- Your still not pregnant?- Quite a few months have passed and your not pregnant so at this point your loved ones will start to wonder and then comes the pressure. What they don't stop to realize is that, what if you are trying to get pregnant but are having a hard time and the questions are actually hindering and not helping the situation.  Maybe, you have decided you don't want kids and there questions are making you second guess your decision, whatever the case, this is a very sensitive subject and unless the subject is brought up by the person being questioned, leave it alone. Whatever the reasoning is, it's their business and you saying things like, "hurry up I want to be an uncle or I need a child to spoil," will not make them move any faster. Actually, that whole situation just sounds personal so I'd say get a puppy to fill the void you are feeling and let me continue to handle my business over here.

#5- Are you still allowed to go out?- There is always one friend who will ask this question when ladies night plans roll around.  This is when I usually think to myself, am I sick or dying and my doctor has forbid me from having a night out with my friends? If the answer to this is no, then yes, of course I can go out, I'm married not a hostage. Sheesh!

#6- What time do you have to be home?- This question honestly wouldn't bother me at all if this same kind of concern was shown during my non-married days.  When this question comes to me only after I've married then I start to wonder, "Does this person think my husband is my parole officer and if I'm not home by a certain hour a swat team will be out looking for me?" My husband is just that my husband who by the way happens to trust me. Don't worry, I'm a responsible adult and will make it home when I feel it's best but thank you for asking and yes don't worry, the hubs will be informed.

#7- I went to that place we always wanted to go to last night and it was great.- This place could be a new Sushi restaurant, make-up palace, whatever, the key is that it was a we thing and it's something we planned to do together.  Instead of asking me if I was interested in going you automatically diss me because I'm married now and you just figure I wouldn't be interested because you specifically stated, "Oh, you have a husband now so I didn't think you'd want to go with me." What kind of foolishness is that to say, you know damn well my husband doesn't like Sushi. Sigh! The husband and I have interest we share and those that we don't so before you assume anything, please ask.

#8-Your husband allows you to wear that?- Now what now? He's not my father but I do respect him as my husband and well hell I happen to have a confident husband who actually likes his wife to look sexy, as long as my butt cheeks aren't hanging out, there is no problem here.

I love being married and most importantly I am grateful for being able to have married my best friend but it boggles my mind as to how people don't think before they speak.  Just because I'm married now doesn't mean that your anti-marriage comments don't hurt or that I don't want to be included in anything that is outside of my marriage because in actuality that is not the case. I'm still my own person and at times it would be nice to be treated as such.

For those that make these comments or ask these questions you may or may not mean any harm but just remember to think before you speak as we married folks have feelings to.

Now that I have gotten that off my chest..Have you ever had to deal with any foolish comments or questions when it came to your marriage? If so, how did you deal?

As always, thank you so very much for reading and please remember to leave your comments below.

~Positively Jewls

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Old?? Hell No! But Damn It... & How Was Your Summer?

Hey Everyone,

I must say it definitely feels good to be back. :)

After taking a long and much needed summer hiatus I am finally back with brand new post and taking a bit of a different approach this time around. This time around my post will be more honest and true to self; not that my prior posts haven't been true but there was usually a little sugar added on top as I was afraid about what others may have thought about what I had written.  After some soul searching I came to the conclusion that to become a better writer I must stay true to myself and give my audience 100% of my truth with no sugar added and that's what I want to bring to you this time around. I hope you all enjoy what's to come and ahead of time I would like to thank you all so much for reading.

With that said, how was everyone's summer?

I for one didn't do much traveling but spent great times with family and friends, ate lots, drank lots and partook in your usual summer activities.  The two things I wanted the most this summer was to learn how to ride a bike and take swimming lessons but the prices for both were ridiculous during the summer so decided to hold out until late fall/early winter. Btw, if anyone knows of any fairly priced adult swim classes in NYC please feel free to drop me a quick note in the comments section. :) Thanks!

During the month of August the hubs and I spent the majority of our time trying to figure out where we were going to go for a fun getaway combined with celebrating the hubs b-day.  We thought Vegas (one of our fave vaca spots,) The Hamptons, New Orleans, Puerto Rico, yada, yada, yada.  We thought about it and after being blessed enough to travel as much as we did last year and with some mild traveling coming up this year we thought we should just save some money and keep it local, so we settled on Foxwoods in Manhastucket, CT.  This getaway actually turned out to be a fun and relaxing four days which is exactly what we needed but of course as always I came home with a story to tell.

For those of you who don't know what Foxwoods is, it's a gambling resort casino, so you have gambling, as well as restaurants, clubs, spas, bowling, etc so definitely a fun escape that will not break the bank.  During the Tuesday night of our stay we decided to hit up club Shrine which is suppose to be the most happening spot on the east coast on Tuesday night.  The club itself is known to have celebrity clientele along with celebrity DJ's that get the spot jumping every week.  After conducting my research we decide to make this a fun way to end our trip so we mozied on over to The MGM and purchased our $20 tickets and off we went.

Let the silliness ensue. :)

Now before I get to the everyone looked like they were12 and possibly carrying fake ID's, lets first discuss how we were the first ones on the scene. 

According to the club website there hours of operation on Tuesday night is 9p-1a with the celebrity DJ of the night being DJ Rehab.  We had already figured we didn't want to be the first ones at the club (because who does that) but didn't want to be to late as four hours is really a short time to party, so we decide that we are going to arrive to the club around 10p.  Now in the normal world, there should be something popping off by now right, I mean it is a Tuesday night and the club is only open for four hours. We arrive to the club around 9:45pm ish which is still not to early but we walk in and quickly figure out that we are the first guest to arrive, wtf?? Noooo, this was not a part of the plan, who wants to be the first one at the club? Sigh, we grin and bear it since we did already hand in our tickets but damn it if that didn't make me feel old and confused like we were there to chaperone the damn place.

Since we were the first ones there and had nothing else to do, we decided to kill time and walk around the club for a bit. Oh, I almost forgot to mention that they weren't even set up yet, yes a double wammy.  Not only do I feel old for being the first one there but damn it, now I feel like I'm part of the crew but the overdressed mother of the little girls running around in tank tops and booty shorts, who I should be watching over to make sure they make it home by curfew. Sigh! 

Maybe this is how they give it up in CT, what the hell do I know. Maybe I am just some clueless woman who attends afterwork happy hours and is usually in bed by 11p on a Tuesday night, happily I might add, girl has work in the morning.

Anywho, we proceed to walk around the club, around the bar we go very, very, very slowly while watching the female servers set up and look at themselves in the bar "mirror", ok there was more looking in the mirror and less setting up but you get my point.  We continue to walk around and watch the foolishness ensue. Once again around the bar we go, ugh, why are we still walking there is no where to walk to...

The Mai Tai's were a great way to start off our trip, remembrance of Hawaii. :) High Rollers bowling alley was definitely lots of fun, I struck out a bunch of times but it gave me an excuse to have hubby help me out. ;) After warming up a bit, I was back in the game, lots of high fives ensued.  Also, I must give them props for there yummy Martinis. I was completely hooked.

We finally ask the bartender if we were allowed to hang out upstairs where what seems to be a lounge/restaurant but we were told that wasn't an option so she suggested we sit out in the sitting area outside by the fire pit to kill sometime until the "party" starts. Sigh!  We step out and oh hell no, it was like upper 40's that night so that was not an option.  At this point, with no where to walk to and nothing more to see besides well nothing, we decide to ask if we can leave and come back even though we gave in our tickets already. The cashier turns to the manager, ask what should I do, he looks confused, they ask us what time we are coming back, we say an hour or so, we get our tickets back and off we go.

We kill sometime by partaking in some gambling and eating some grub but decide to go back, we probably wouldn't have but since we did pay $20 each, why let our money go to waste.

We return sometime around 11p/11:30p ish, can't recall as I've had a few chocolate martinis at this point and I'm going with the flow. Anyway, we return and return see people on lineas well as inside, yay, other people. We jump back on line and hubby is like, "everyone looks like they just got out of college and just started hitting the club scene." Usually, I'll giggle and tell hubby, "oh stop," but this time around he was right on target.  Still keeping an open mind we proceed to enter, hit the bar, ordered our Long Islands (best club drink ever invented) and decide to walk around once again, I don't know why we are walking around this damn bar again but that's just the normal thing to do in a club so we proceed.  We find a nice corner to watch the DJ who is killing it by the way but in those first two minutes of watching him, a girl is getting escorted out due to her pure drunkenness, hold on, hubby and I look at each other with that face and wonder how in the hell she managed to get that **it faced in an hour, I mean, no one was here when we left. Interesting...

The greenery and the sunset views were the actual view from our room balcony, amazing! The food you see here is from David Burke's and it was delic, if you ever visit, go on Lobster night, $34 per person and you get an appetizer as well as dessert. Yes and thank you! :)

After enjoying the DJ for a few minutes, almost getting knocked down by two giggly girls running around the club because I guess it really was there first outing and trying to figure out why we look like the oldest ones here but are no where near old, after an hour we decided to call it quits.

I don't know if it was the we open at 9p but don't set up until 10p but close at 1a bit, the fact that everyone looked and acted like they were under 25 or that I felt like the overdressed mom although I was in a short summer dress and wedges (so that tells you allot) but I realized there is just certain **it I don't have the patience for and this was one of those moments.  

Being in our early 30's we are no where near old but I've realized there are certain scenes that aren't for me (except for Vegas, where all bets are off.) I love to go out and dance just as much as the next person but I think I'll stick with my 25 and over after work crowd. Especially since I will not be the first one at the club as the party has already started.

With all of the above said, I mean no offense at all to the under 25 crowd because at that age I'm sure I acted the same way, maybe, and would have found that scene fun and exciting but with getting older comes more maturity and less patience.

Still, even with this interesting club adventure, it was still a fun experience and a great trip and I wouldn't change a thing.

Bye Foxwoods, it's been fun.

Although you know you are no where near old, have you ever had an experience where you just felt that way?

Remember to leave your thoughts and comments below and also let me know what fun trips/getaways you took the summer.

Thanks for reading and remember to check out my jewelry on Etsy.

Hope you enjoyed the pics.

~Positively Jewls

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Let's Make Some Jewelry!!! :)

As promised, I wanted to bring you all into my world of jewelry making and the steps I take to complete my projects.  Now, remember, I am the photog (for now) amongst everything else so try to bare with me. Take a looksey below.

It's Sunday morning and I'm all ready to get started, although I have turned our kitchen/dining table into my workstation. Hey, have to make use of what's available at the moment. 

Also, for those that know me, I have never been a coffee drinker.  To get my kick of caffeine I would just drink green tea but with my biz, work, home life, etc I needed something more so my DH assisted me onto the coffee bandwagon and I haven't looked back since.  I still love my green tea for the afternoon but my iced coffee gives me that extra morning energy that I desparately need...but only iced coffee folks as hot coffee for me is no bueno.

Yes, for those of you who are wondering, those are gloves for washing but I've turned them into my painting gloves, don't judge me. :)

I am bringing my first official sketched design to life and making a fun pair of blue striped post earrings with Starfish charms.  When I first started out, painting was not how evisioned making my jewelry but it has become so much fun and I love the creative process that much more.

I saved this pic positioned in the correct way but it seems to have had a mind of it's own when posting, anywho, you all get the point. 

The earring bases are now all white and I am letting my paint brushes soak in cold water to get them nice and clean so I can move on to making the next color base.

and now we have blue... :)

So, I'm painting my stripes, having to use tape to align and everything was going great until bam, damn it, why is that extra stripe there.  Now, I may have been running my mouth off with the hubs but still... Anywho, all worked out and with a little more time and patience...

Here is the end result.... Yayyyyyyy, I did it!!!

I love, love, love these earrings.  They were the first pair of post earrings I have made (aside from the rings) and I just felt so much joy when bringing my sketch to life. 

Since this was my first time giving you all a play by play, I may have left some stuff out but please feel free to ask any questions in the comments section below.

Thanks so much for reading..I'm now off to post these beauties on Etsy.

~Positively Jewls